Do you know where you stand in your relationship, engagement or marriage? Well, you should! You would be surprised to know that most people in committed relationships are acting outside the role that their mate has type casted them in. Some mates see themselves higher and sometimes lower in value than their significant other does.
Countless relationships are navigating the difference between relationship value and gender roles. Often confusing the two or literally not having a clue that one has nothing to do with the other.
Why does this happen? Lack of Communication is the culprit. Unspoken rules, lack of clear boundaries or failure to clearly state the needs and wants you require to fill your love bank within your relationship. This makes it difficult for significant others to know their place, so to speak. We encourage you to stop spousal discontentment, integrate clear expectations and don’t be upset if your mate needs continual guidance in this arena. It’s okay to apply grace in relationships; where two people are working at love together. However, if you don’t want to participate in the process do not be surprised with negative outcomes.
Relationships are hard-enough without help! Gender roles are single-handedly tearing down new relationships and eviscerating marriages on the daily basis. Why? Because of false misconceptions presented in the media, on television shows and by poorly executed familial practices where many individuals heard the old saying from their parents or guardians “Do as I say and not as I do!” These layers of inconsistency and hypocrisy cause an imbalanced view of gender roles and the expectations of those roles. We often set our mates up for failure with unrealistic expectations and ceiling height goals that no significant other could ever reach. Plus, it’s not fair to place your mate on a pedestal only to be knocked down by you and your outrageous ideals. Don’t you love your mate? Well, if you do…show them!
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love”1 John 4:18
We encourage you to find a balance. If you need more tips we encourage you to join the Me to We Talk Podcast for our latest episode, “Know Your Place” in which we discuss real insight on how you know your place without being out of place! Join the Me to We Talk Podcast! Download, Share and Subscribe TODAY!