“A crucial personal safety tip. Pause your auto-response of snapping, criticizing, judging, and immediately replace it with the opposite; kindness and patience. Modeling this will yield you the same level of regard. It’s a wonderful time to show and receive kindness and respect. Remember, your partner, too, is experiencing stress and fear.
~Katherine Mazza, LMFT
It’s weird place to be in today’s society. We have found that our lives have been turned upside down and trying to navigate our emotions during this difficult time has wreaked havoc on burgeoning marriages and long standing relationships.
If you didn’t know where you stood before this chaos ensued the unease of your relationship status will make you feel adrift at sea. Why? Because it is the fear of the unknown. Or maybe it’s fear all by itself. Let’s give credit where credit is due. The natural reaction is to hurt the ones we love because honestly they are the closest one’s to us right now. Stay at home ordinances have caused us; the world to create boundary lines that we never agreed to. Now, many couples find the slightest implication appalling, or the most minute grievances intolerable. Why? Because, we have turned to the world for the answer that God has provided in our own homes. Marriages need time. Couples need to establish what is acceptable and not acceptable for our own marriages. Now, we have turned our safe places once called home into battle grounds for no reason at all. We have learned in our marriage how the enemy attempts to distract us from noticing that his time is limited. Anything that will take us the mark and draw us away from the God…when we need him the most. Don’t let Fear, anxiety and uncertainty win! God is in control! We will get through this!
But, as it is written: That eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither hath it entered into the heart of man, what things God hath prepared for them that love him.
1 Corinthians 2:9
Focus on the Good Things…and Watch Your Marriage Transform!
Not only should you focus on the good things to come you should actively seek out Good and give love and kindness a permanent place at the table!
Practice Four or More!
What’s Four or More? Well it’s actively working to find 4 things that are good in your relationship to replace one negative interaction. We encourage you to utlize Phillipians 4:8 to help you keep score!
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
Philippians 4:8
Then start speaking life into your relationships! Call those things that are not as though they were. Then watch how you will begin as we did to see the forest between the trees.
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