Who is that tip-toeing into the house in the wee hours of the night?! It better not be your spouse! Many of us have heard the saying even from our parents as teenagers that, “nothing ever good happens at that time of night”. We second that motion your honor!
Countless newly married couples are facing this boundary issue every Friday or Saturday night. Text message arguments are on the rise and new found relationships are hitting all time lows. Why? Because someone doesn’t want to let go of their freedom and someone else wants more stability. There is nothing more traumatizing for a relationship then after the honeymoon stage of marriage to realize after reaching towards your spouses side of the bed only to find empty cool sheets instead of the warmth of your spouse. Not that inviting newlywed feeling you were expecting, huh?
Why does this happen in marriage? At some point during the rigmarole of marriage, one partner begins to believe that they have lost themselves. They have forgotten their identity and they want it back…now! However, it is not losing yourself that is at play within a spouses discontentment, it is understanding “the merge” of marriage. Meaning, if you wanted to stay in your own lane, ask yourself, “why did I get married in the first place?”
It really sounds like someone wants their cake and eat it too! It is more plausible that you need a little freedom to engage with your friends. However, when you begin to chase after the single life when you most certainly took your marriage vows on your wedding day…then you are headed into uncharted territory. That uncharted territory is coming in at three o’clock or 4 o’clock in the morning! Or even worse, you begin your night out on the town just before midnight. They only thing that is available at that time of night is temptation. We vigorously encourage you to not to jump in the ring with temptation if you are not ready to fight!
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV
Escape into your marriage! Whatever is occurring in the wee hours of the morning shouldn’t be more enticing then your mate. Likewise, you don’t want to overlook your marriage because you have lost the so-called excitement of who you once used to be. We encourage you to find a balance. If you need more tips we encourage you to join the Me to We Talk Podcast for our latest episode, “UnGodly Hour” in which we discuss the top 7 reasons your mate maybe staying away from home! Join the Me to We Talk Podcast as we discuss boundaries in marriage, beginning the UnGodly Hour. Download, Share and Subscribe TODAY!