“Not tonight, not tomorrow night…not any night! Way to kill the mood, honey! Seriously, What does hearing the words “not tonight, mean to you and the state of your marital sex-confidence? It means, “your not good enough, it means you aren’t wanted, it means to some…”Is there someone else”? Lack of sex and the out-right denial of your marital rights makes you question your self-worth and the value of your marriage as a whole. Not only does hearing the words, “Not tonight” deactivate your sex drive, it lowers your libido and dismantles your marriage bed.
“Yes, the world is hurting right now but does our sex life have to as well?” A statement heard around the world during this pandemic! The answer is “yes” and “no”. With millions of Americans facing furloughs, lay-offs and unemployment…having sex is the last thing many are thinking about. Stress and anxiety are at an all time high, causing the sex drive for many married couples to be at an all time low.
You and your boo went from seeing each other only in the morning before work, after dinner, and on the weekends to… 24/7. “You lose out on the excitement of seeing each other at the end of the day,” Harper says. “And now there are so many more opportunities to get on each other’s nerves.” Plus, if you and your partner have children, any child-rearing or housework imbalances may be exacerbated now that you’re both likely to be at home. It’s pretty unlikely you’re going to want to get down with your partner if you’re feeling resentful or grumpy.Why Lockdown Tanked Your Libido — and How to Get It Back, If You Want ~Medically reviewed by Janet Brito, Ph.D., LCSW, CST on April 21, 2020 New — Written by Gabrielle Kassel
All hope is not lost! There are things you and your spouse can do to ignite intimacy in marriage. The number one goal is not to loose sight of the gift you have in your spouse. Think of sexual intimacy in marriage as your own “get-a-way without going away” therapy. Escape into the arms of the one you love!
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV
Likewise, you don’t want to overlook your marriage during the Covid-19 pandemic, so after this crisis is over you don’t have a new looming break-up taking its place. Ouch! Join the Me to We Talk Podcast as we discuss the health perks of engaging your mate in the time of the Coronavirus! God provides a built in antibiotic in your marriage bed. All you have to do is lay in there!